The End of An Era

The End of An Era

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Hello and happy Saturday. A couple of weeks ago, I filled the last page of “My Little Notebook of Random Thoughts” aka the notebook where I wrote my reviews and developed some blogging ideas. This notebook was a gift from a former student, and I had it since May 15th, 2017.

I originally had it to write To-Do lists, but then I started writing my thoughts on the books I was reading, and it became my blogging notebook. I have another one I use for writing post ideas, but in this one, I’d actually develop some of those ideas, and it wasn’t just reviews but stuff I knew I’d forget if I didn’t write down.

Of course, I have a new blogging notebook and I’ve already started filling it out, and since the post ideas for the old one have already been written and scheduled, the time has come to throw the little notebook away. I used to be a fan of holding on to just about everything that could have some emotional value, but now I think the value is in the memories and the people, not in things, and the memories of my notebook will live as long as this blog does, so it’s time to let go.

Now, I’m going to make a list of every post idea I developed and wrote down in my notebook. I’ll link the posts that have already been published so that you check them out:

In the comments below, let me know what your favorite post was.

Happy Saturday!

Love, Miss Camila

Why I No Longer Follow Any Booktubers

Why I No Longer Follow Any Booktubers

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Hello and happy Wednesday. For the past three months I’ve had so much free time, I mostly don’t know what to do with it. That’s a lie: I blog and I watch YouTube or Netflix, that’s what I do, but my channel tastes have changed and I no longer follow people I used to love. For a while, I was super into Booktube, but almost all of a sudden I got fed up and decided to unfollow basically every booktuber in my feed. Today I’ll tell you why that happened. Let’s get started, shall we?

I’m trying to remember every booktuber I followed, and I’m going to make a list at the end of this post for you to check out in case you’re interested. Like with everything else, I just followed one channel, which led me to another, and then some more, and finally I was following more bookish channels that makeup and beauty channels. I started watching these videos for entertainment purposes, but also because I have a blog and I’m always looking for ideas to incorporate in my posts. Booktubers also get free books to review, which means that I could have more titles to add to my wish list.

At first, I really enjoyed the relaxed style of the videos. Obviously, every person has their own way of doing things, but in general I felt like there was way less editing and script than in the case of makeup or beauty videos, for almost reasons. I experimented with some very popular channels, but I didn’t like them, so they were the first I unfollowed, but there were others I truly loved and was happy to be following.

I don’t know when I started noticing that all the videos the booktubers were uploading were pretty much the same. Let me explain: I felt that the content channel A was uploading was very similar to what channel B was making. The reason? In most cases the videos were being sponsored by the same publishing houses, so the booktubers had to talk about the same book.

This happens with makeup too: when a brand releases a new product, some beauty gurus get sponsored videos to show that product in action. I may be biased here, but I think a makeup product gives you way more possibilities than a book. I mean, if you’re given a book, you’re most likely to come up with a review, and that’s it.

Sometimes Booktubers are being sponsored by subscription boxes like OwlCrate, in which case they upload an unboxing, but once you’ve seen one you’ve seen them all. I mean, why would I watch the same unboxing in three or four different channels? That makes no sense.

I decided once again to unfollow some of the channels so that I could avoid seeing the same video over and over, but then I discovered another issue. Most of the booktubers I followed were college kids who had their channels for fun and not as a full-time job, which means they sometimes didn’t upload any videos, and they didn’t even have a set uploading schedule like “professional” Youtubers.

Basically, I got annoyed. I felt that I wasn’t getting the content I was originally getting, and I decided to unfollow every booktuber I used to follow. I occasionally check out some of the channels, but usually the videos don’t attract me. Has this ever happened to you? Let me know in the comments below.

Happy reading!

Love, Miss Camila

PS: Here’s the list of booktubers I told you about

Tashapolis 

abooktopia 

jessethereader 

emmmabooks

sarawithoutanH

readbyzoe

a dash of ash 

A Clockwork Reader 

Book Roast

Thanksgiving With the In-Laws

Thanksgiving With the In-Laws

Hello and happy Monday. I have absolutely no idea about American traditions besides what I’ve seen on TV and movies and what I read in books. I do know that Thanksgiving is a pretty big deal and hopefully this year someone invites me over to celebrate the holiday with them.

Today’s makeup look is what I imagine I’d wear if I had a boyfriend and he asked me to spend Thanksgiving at his parents’ house. It’s the perfect balance between classy and edgy, and it says “I know how to do my makeup” without being super extravagant. It is also a textbook reverse smokey eye, so if you were curious as to how to achieve it, just read the steps below.

 

 

  1. Primer
  2. Foundation
  3. Concealer
  4. Eyebrows
  5. Light beige (eyelid base)
  6. Black eyeliner (tightline)
  7. Black liquid eyeliner (top lash line)
  8. Dark brown (bottom lash line)
  9. Mascara
  10. Blush
  11. Highlighter
  12. Lipliner
  13. Matte liquid lipstick
  14. Lipgloss (center of the lid)

In the comments below tell me whether you celebrate Thanksgiving or not.

Happy Monday!

Love, Miss Camila

Sample vs. Full Size #3

Sample vs. Full Size #3

Miss Camila (1).pngHello and happy Sunday. Welcome to another episode of Sample vs. Full Size. How about we discuss some overpriced products and whether I’d buy them or not? Yes? Okay. Let’s get started, shall we?

SERAPHINE BOTANICALS Ginger + Gold -Peach & Gold Frosting Blush 

Full size: I got the full size version in my Ipsy glam bag.

Full price: $14

Buy? Yes/No? Why? The shade of this blush is amazing for pretty much every look you decide to go to and it’d definitely be my choice if I could only wear one shade of blush for the rest of my life. The price is higher than what I’m used to paying for products like this, but I would probably consider buying it. It’s not a fuck yes, but’s not a hell no either.

CHELLA Eyebrow Cream in Tantalizing Taupe 

Full size: I got the full size version of it in my Ipsy glam bag.

Full price: $26

Buy? Yes/No? Why? Hell no! I’m not crazy enough to spend nearly $30 on an eyebrow cream. I mean, I could get an eyebrow pencil which does the same for $3. I love this shade, and I love how it makes my brows look, especially on days when I like to have them darker, but I wouldn’t even consider buying this product.

TARTE COSMETICS Amazonian Clay Waterproof Bronzer 

Full size: I got a sample of the bronzer (3 g or 0.11 oz). The full-size version weighs 0.32 oz.

Full price: $30

Buy? Yes/No? Why? Look, I understand that Tarte is a high-end brand and that means that its products are expensive. This is obviously a great brand, I’m not going to deny the fact that I love the samples I get, but I just don’t feel good spending that much money on a single makeup item. I mean, yesterday my best friend and I went to have lunch and the bill was even cheaper than that

PURETEM Purevera Emulsion 

Full size: I got a teeny tiny sample. The full size product contains 130 mL.

Full price: $18

Buy? Yes/No? Why? This is a product I actually used a while ago, so I don’t really remember my exact thoughts on it. I’m sure my review is somewhere in an Empties post. It is a moisturizer I’d wear for after showering, before getting started with my makeup routine. I would pay $18 for a moisturizer because I think skin care is super important and goes beyond looking nice. I also think that given the size of the product, it’s going to last me a while, so it’s worth the price.

TRESTIQUE Mini Concealer Crayon in Porcelain 

Full size: I got the mini version of the crayon.

Full price: $24

Buy? Yes/No? Why? I actually got this product in full size, and not just this, but a whole Trestique kit. I like the concept of stick concealer and I’ve enjoyed this thoroughly, but I wouldn’t buy it again, and not just because of the price. I just think there are many great options when it comes to concealer and I don’t want to be “stuck” with just the one.

As always, let me know which products you’d buy and why.

Happy Sunday!

Love, Miss Camila

Creating My Profile from Scratch

Creating My Profile from Scratch

Announcement.pngHello and happy Saturday. The longest month of my life is finally over, and I’m glad to tell you that I am back on OK Cupid, with a whole new profile I created following Mark Rosenfeld’s advice. In case you’re wondering, no, he’s not the only coach I follow. I recently started watching Matthew Hussey’s videos and reading his blog posts. I also got his book a while ago for reviewing purposes via Netgalley. In today’s post I’ll let you know what I took into account when filling out my profile, and I link you to sources you might find interesting. Let’s get started, shall we?

First and foremost, keep in mind that, in a way, I had a full month of preparation when it came to this profile. Many people impulsively make the decision of going into online dating. They think “f*ck it, I’ll just go on this or that app” and create a profile. I’ve done that, remember that I first went on OK Cupid five years ago. This time, though, I decided that in order to be smart about the whole online dating thing, I had to have a plan.

Ultimately, my plan had two parts. The first one was thinking about my profile in abstract, so I gathered general ideas of what an attractive profile should and shouldn’t include. I used many ideas from Mark’s blog post How to Be Down to Earth (And Why It’s So Attractive)  because I’m definitely trying to be more down to earth, and come across as one.

See, I’m concerned with the superficial because I’m a professional makeup artist and I’m obsessed with all things beauty, but that’s something that can probably come up in conversation on a date, and not a piece of vital information I *have* to include in my profile, right? Here comes the second aspect Mark relates to being down to earth, and it’s not bragging. I’m not a modest person, and I know I should be more humble, so part of it is finding ways to include in my the achievements I’m proudest of without sounding arrogant.

No online dating profile is perfect and I think we all could benefit from advice, but obviously that doesn’t mean you have the same concerns as I do or make the same mistakes I’ve made. You may be super down to earth and think I’m over the top for being superficial and for bragging. That’s totally okay; I’m trying to grow, and probably you are, too, in other aspects, which is why I’m linking the posts and videos I used so that you can check them out.

Now, I didn’t just sit in front of the computer and filled out my profile. I actually wrote “drafts” of answers to questions I remembered, and I would revise them, until I was satisfied with the result, and had all answers ready for the day when I created the profile. That worked for me because I was able to reflect upon what I really wanted to say, and not just type the first thing that came to my mind.

When reading Five Dating Profiles That Push Men Away,  I realized that I’d made two huge mistakes in the past, and that this time I had to avoid them completely:

1) I was negative, so I would write stuff like “do NOT text unless you want to have a real conversation” or things of the sort.

2) I was sort of projecting my frustrations with past online dating experiences. I remember after my first OK Cupid fail, in my new profile I wrote something like “text me if you’re willing to meet. This last guy would tell me that he loved me without even meeting me in person.”

I have seen those two in guys’ profiles, and it’s a total turnoff. I mean, what’s worse than the “not here to play games” or “tired of crazy bitches” lines? My current philosophy when it comes to online dating is: if I don’t like seeing something in a potential match’s profile, then why would I include it in mine?

Now, let’s talk about what makes a profile attractive. I took ideas from What Should I Write in My Online Dating Profile . The best piece of advice I got from that video was simply: be grateful. It is exactly the opposite of being restrictive or demanding, so instead of saying “you should only talk to me if you have tattoos,” I wrote “you’ll get bonus points if you’re inked.” I think this is a way of showing once preferences without coming of as bitchy.

On Tinder Dating Tips: How to Write Your Tinder Bio, Mark focuses on keeping the profile short and sweet. Yes, this is Tinder and I opened an OK Cupid account, but still, I said it once before: I don’t like to read long-ass profiles, so I’m not going to write a long-ass profile. I kept my answers to very short paragraphs, and I mean, two-sentence paragraphs at the most.

I also wanted to be smart when it came to my pictures, so I read 9 Secrets to an Attention Grabbing Profile Picture, and I watched Tinder Tips For Women: How to Choose Your Photos. From these two, I got an idea of which pictures to upload and why. For example, I added some pictures of me wearing little makeup or none at all. I also included pictures that weren’t selfies, and captioned all of them.

I realized that my whole mindset had to change, and not just my profile. Yesterday a guy actually asked me whether I was looking for friends with benefits, and my reply was “I’m looking. I don’t really know what I’m looking for.” That was my way of telling him that I’m open to meeting people and seeing what happens, as opposed to being set of looking for my husband. Mark refers to this in 6 Tinder Tips for Women, when he talks about not taking Tinder too seriously, and I think that’s my current mindset: not taking OK Cupid and online dating in general, too seriously.

Along that same line I had to embrace the fact that I’ll probably be spending months swiping left and right, and that yes, I have to swipe right more. I learned this from How To Get Matches On Tinder, The #1 Reason Online Dating Has Failed You, and 3 Attitudes You NEED To Date Successfully Online.

In the comments below tell me what you think makes a profile attractive.

Happy Saturday!

Love, Miss Camila

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I Love to Suffer

I Love to Suffer

Hello and happy Wednesday. Right after I finished Me Before You by Jojo Moyes, I started reading the sequel, After You. As always, I have a lot to say about this book, and I want to share my thoughts on it with you. Let’s get started, shall we?

It was truly heartbreaking to see how sad Lou was at the beginning of this book, but it also seemed like she’d grown up. I was surprised to see how much she’d changed from the Lou we’d met in Me Before You, and in my mind I had to come to terms with the fact that it was almost as if she was a completely different character and the story I was reading was a completely different one.

Lou has an accident and due to it, she has some mobility issues for a while, and because of this, she can relate to what Will had to experience. I really appreciated that, especially since I really wanted to get some of Will’s perspective in the previous book. I think this was a good approximation of that.

Me Before You was a huge success, not only as a book but especially as a movie. I haven’t watched that one, and I’m not sure After You has already been adapted, but I’d really like to see it.

I think I liked the style of this novel better than Me Before You. I really liked Sam, and I think he’s an amazing human being and exactly the kind of guy I want to marry one day. I got the feeling he was a bit older than Lou, so I guess she’s still into that. She’s also way more in touch with her sexy side, and you know I’m always up for a sexy read. Again, I love the slow development of the story and the fact that nothing is rushed.

Just like in Me Before You, we get the odd chapter from another character’s perspective, which is always cool and in my opinion enriches the story. Like in the previous book, there are also mentions of attempts of sexual assault, which is why I wouldn’t recommend it for some types of readers.

Something I didn’t like in the slightest was the baby drama. You know that’s something I never like. That is something that really doesn’t add to a plot, it just makes it more like a cheap soap opera. I wasn’t on board with that at all.

You know that at the beginning of this post I said that I’d basically jumped into this book right after finishing Me Before You. Now that I’ve been able to digest both books, I have to admit that I wish I’d taken more time before starting After You. And when I say more time I mean full weeks or even months. I think it’s necessary to disassociate the Lou of Me Before You and the one from After You.

All in all, this book left me thinking about this thing the characters from Once Upon a Time used to say: that life is not about happy endings but happy beginnings. In the comments below, tell me about a story that gave you this same feeling.

Happy reading!

Love, Miss Camila

Monday Makeup

Monday Makeup

Hello and happy Monday. A few years ago I came across this piece of advice that was something along the lines of: “if you’re hungover but need to be presentable, just wear a dress or a skirt, so people will actually think you’ve put more effort into your morning routine.” Even though I don’t drink, I agree with that piece of advice, and at times when I haven’t felt my best, I’ve applied the “fake it till you make it” philosophy. Today’s makeup look is super easy to achieve, but trust me, it’ll get you all the compliments. Here are the steps I followed:

 

 

 

 

  1. Primer
  2. Foundation
  3. Concealer
  4. Eyebrows
  5. White (eyelid base)
  6. Matte brown (crease)
  7. Matte brown (lower lash line)
  8. Black eyeliner (tightline)
  9. Mascara
  10. Powder
  11. Blush
  12. Lipliner
  13. Matte red lipstick

In the comments below, share any tricks you know to look your best even when you’re not feeling it.

Happy Monday!

Love, Miss Camila

Sample vs. Full Size #2

Sample vs. Full Size #2

Miss Camila.pngHello and happy Sunday. Welcome to another episode of Sample vs. Full Size. Today I have five products I can’t wait to talk about. Let’s get started, shall we?

 

 

THE BALM COSMETICS Balm Springs Blush

Full size: I gave away my sample, so I don’t know its weight. The full-size version weighs 5.61g or 0.197oz.

Full price: $21

Buy? Yes/no? Why? I really like this brand and I really liked this blush. I think I gave it away because I had a similar shade already, but I love that it’s a matte and it gives the skin that healthy rosy glow. I wouldn’t pay $21 for a blush like this when Revlon, Elf, and even Almay have great blushes for way less than that.

DOUCCE Maxlash Volumizer Mascara 

Full size: I got the mini version, and there isn’t information on the full-size one.

Full price: $22

Buy? Yes/ No? Why? This is an alright mascara, but I don’t feel it’s superior to others I’ve tried. I gave this away because I already had others I preferred. I wouldn’t buy this in full size because I think there are drugstore mascaras doing a better job for over half the price.

MARGARET DABBS LONDON Treatment Enriched Nail Polish in Green Daylily 

Full size: I got the full size version in by glam bag.

Full price: $22

Buy? Yes/No? Why? I talked more in-depth about this nail polish in a haul, so be sure to check it out. Basically, I like the color but I’m not too sure about the formulation. I think the pricepoint for this is absurd, and I wouldn’t think about buying this or any other shade in the line. I’d rather stick to my $1 nail polish I get at the supermarket, which has a way better formulation and lasts me more than a day.

DELECTABLE BY CAKE BEAUTY Triple Moisture Body Lotion in Coconut & Cream 

Full size: I’m pretty sure I got the travel size version (60 ml or 2 fl. oz). The full size version contains 236 ml or  8 fl. oz.

Full price: The travel size version is $6 and the full size version is $14.

Buy? Yes/No? Why? I already talked about this product in an Empties post, but I don’t remember whether I said I’d buy it or not. Right this second I think I would pay $14 for the full-size version because I really loved the scent and the feel of this lotion, and I think the price is fair. Please don’t make it more expensive!

VASANTI COSMETICS Power Oil Lip Gloss in Super Mom 

Full size: I got the full size version in my glam bag.

Full price: $22

Buy? Yes/No? Why? First and foremost, what is it with companies charging $22 for their products? I absolutely adore this lipgloss and I think both the formulation and the shade are amazing. This could easily be one of my favorite, most-used lippies, but knowing how expensive it is, I’d rather buy the more affordable versions brands like NYX, Maybelline, Revlon, and L’Oreal have to offer.

In the comments, let me know whether you’d buy any of these products and why.

Happy Sunday!

Love, Miss Camila

Get My Attention on OK Cupid: Moving to Other Platforms

Get My Attention on OK Cupid: Moving to Other Platforms

Announcement (2).pngHello and happy Saturday. I’m really excited to bring you the last post of the “Get My Attention on OK Cupid” series because I think today’s topic is a make-it-or-break-it when it comes to progressing in online interactions. Even though my experiences with J and MHD failed because I’m currently not talking to either, they were successful in the way that they both progressed past OK Cupid. Basically, today I’m talking about how important it is for me to move to other platforms when the moment is right.

When I’m checking out a guy’s profile, which is my second filter after liking his pictures, I make sure he doesn’t have any social media/ contact information displayed in it. Why? Wouldn’t it just be easier to contact them directly via Snapchat or Whatsapp? Of course it would be easier, but that doesn’t mean it’d be better. I used to make the mistake of posting my Instagram and Snapchat handles in my profile, and in some occasions I did get directly contacted by some guys. The messages were actually very polite and no unsolicited dick pics were involved (thank goodness). Still, I’m not letting that information be public; if I consider someone deserving of it, then I’ll give it personally.

Displaying your social media information like that is in a way setting a trap and seeing who catches. You’re not making any effort, the people who see your profile are, and if that’s the case, then I don’t want to have any interaction with you. To me, it comes to this: if you share your Instagram, you only want to be seen (and you care way too much about your follower count even if you won’t admit it); if you share your Whatsapp, you just want to talk to literally anyone, and you don’t really care about making a connection; and finally, if you share your Snapchat, then you clearly just want to send dick pics to whomever is watching (and hoping they’ll return the favor).

If what you’re really after is finding people with whom you can make a particular connection, keep that information to yourself at first. In both of my noteworthy online dating experiences, I’ve been the one to tell the guy “hey, let’s move on to another platform.” With J, he actually had to download Whatsapp and I’m pretty sure I was his only contact, while with MHD I told him to follow me on Instagram and we used the messaging feature for a while, and then we moved on to Snapchat.

I think everybody’s “right time” can be different, especially given the conditions you’re in. If you’re meeting people in your area, it makes sense to move on to other platforms that same day because chances are you want to meet soon. In both of my cases, I had more time to decide whether I was interested in continuing the conversation elsewhere or not, so I took a week. Now, it’s not like I counted the days or anything, but that’s how long I’d been talking with each guy when I proposed the use of another app.

As I told you, both guys agreed immediately. MHD followed me on IG and texted me right away, even though for some reason I didn’t see his message until the following day. I don’t have a problem being the one who suggests using apps that I think are more personal than OK Cupid, but I’m not going to beg a guy to do so. I can make the suggestion, but I obviously expect a positive reply. If you’d prefer not to exchange numbers, use other apps that don’t require a phone number, but don’t give me the “I have no Facebook/ Instagram” excuse. This doesn’t guarantee that a guy is not a catfish, but I believe if he’s able to give you a solution like “I don’t have IG but we can talk via Facebook/ Snapchat,” then you can give him the chance. My brother doesn’t have an Instagram account, but he does have Snapchat and Facebook (and he’s clearly a real person), so I know the case is rare, but it happens.

Now, I think the magic of moving on to other platforms is making things more real. You’re just not two profiles, but you’re showing each other who you are outside of an online dating app, and that’s great. By being on Instagram, you’re able to see things in a person that they might not even know they’re showing: they love their pets, they spend a lot of time with family/ friends. Hell, you can even know that they still value a former relationship because there are posts of them and their ex they haven’t deleted. And it can also tell you things about yourself by looking at their profile: “look, he’s got a tattoo. That’s pretty hot,” or “oh, wait, are those his parents? What a sweet picture!”

I couldn’t have held the conversations I did with J or MHD had we stuck to OK Cupid, but I don’t think I would’ve trusted them as much had they suggested to switch to something else too soon. What do you think about this? What is your “right time” when it comes to giving someone you met online your number or social media handles? Let me know in the comments!

Happy Saturday!

Love, Miss Camila

“Take Me Swimming” Makeup

“Take Me Swimming” Makeup

Hello and happy Monday. I’ve already done a few posts sharing with you the makeup I wear when I travel. Yes, I’m that kind of girl who wears makeup to the beach and by the pool, so thank you for taking me swimming, but just so you know, the makeup is coming with me. This afternoon I’m actually going on a trip, so I decided it’d be cool to show you the look I’m wearing (also, how cute is my jumpsuit?) Here are the steps I followed to achieve this look:

 

 

 

 

 

 

  1. Primer
  2. Stick foundation
  3. Beige (eyelid base)
  4. Dark brown (outer corner)
  5. Dark brown (lower lash line)
  6. Mascara
  7. Brown eyeliner (tightline)
  8. Bronzer
  9. Blush
  10. Lipliner
  11. Matte lip crayon

In the comments, tell me your favorite first-date ideas.

Happy Monday!

Love, Miss Camila